Just Ask Y: To meet your dreams, count cash (not sheep!)

by Chelsea Castner
Published February 8, 2013 in Money

Ever since I wrote my blog “Money, it’s worth the relationship,” my antenna has been tuned into articles and posts about finances.  I came across this fabulous list of tips posted on DailyFinance, titled “13 Money Lies You Should Stop Telling Yourself by Age 30.”

I want to highlight for you three facts that made my jaw drop. Hopefully they will get you to pump up the romance in your financial relationship this Valentine’s Day.

Fact 1: A person who starts investing at age 25 will only have to save $4,830 annually to reach $1 million by age 65.

If your first thought was—well I’m not 25, so I don’t need to start yet. WRONG ATTITUDE. Or if you said to yourself—there is no way I can save that much annually. WRONG, again. This statistic isn’t just to encourage the well-off 25 year olds to save. It’s to emphasize that starting today, at whatever age, income level or situation you’re in, is enough if you want to fulfill your dreams.  Just because you aren’t making six figures today, you shouldn’t discount your future.

Fact 2: It’s been proven that a larger salary does not make you happier.

How many times have you heard or said—if I had more money I would do the things I really enjoy doing. I hate to break it to you, but that’s probably not going to happen. Yes, money gives you freedom to indulge in the finer things, but fun doesn’t always come with a price tag (we’ve all seen enough MasterCard commercials to know that the best moments are priceless). If you aren’t having fun now, by the time you’re making more money, you will probably forget what fun even means to you.

If you’re not planning time on your calendar for things you find enjoyable, your current relationships are going to suffer. And if you start presenting yourself as the, “I don’t have enough money to have fun” person, you probably won’t be making any new friends either.  So instead of declining invites due to your bank account, get creative and start inviting friends to things that do fit into your budget. To get you started, check out my video blog here. I share my favorite app that instantly gets you 50% off at restaurants.

Fact 3: It cost roughly $240,000 to raise a child in the U.S, and this figure does not include college tuition. 

Once you get over the shock of this number, take a moment and say (verbally, electronically or even silently) thank you to your folks. I’m not sharing this information to encourage you to take out a sharpie marker and cross “Mother” off your future goals.  Hopefully the opposite is true. If you’re so passionate about becoming a parent you will start taking action today.  That might mean opening up a savings account, asking for the raise you deserve or how about starting a side business built on your interests and passions.

Money is waiting for you. Be bold. Be creative. Be proactive. It’s up to you to reach out and take it.

Tags: For Women, Gen Y, generation y, Good Intentions, Marketing to Women, marketing with women in mind, Psychology, Whole Truths

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Just Ask Y: Money, It’s Worth the Romance

by Chelsea Castner
Published February 1, 2013 in Money

Recently, I asked myself—when did my relationship with money become so complicated? The answer came to me in the form of this movie quote—“With great power, comes great responsibility.” A lesson we all, including Spiderman, have to learn the hard way.

Two years ago, I graduated from college, got my first big-girl job and moved into a one-bedroom Manhattan apartment with my two best friends. For the first time in my life I have a steady cash flow going into my discounted handbag. But, it’s also the first time I’ve had to pay for rent, cable, internet, gas, electric, groceries, cleaning products and slowly repay student loans, all while trying to maintain the social life I used to have in college. The money mania is stressing me out more than a bad romance.

I recently attended a workshop about women and their relationship to money, given by Revenue Breakthrough’s founder, Monica Shah. I learned that women fall into three main categories when it comes to cash flow:

• The Avoider: She’s not sure how much money is flowing into and out of her bank account at all times. Where, if any, of her investments are.  She probably checks her bank account once a month to make sure her rent check clears.
• The Saver: She has a death grip on her money. She weighs every decision based on how much it will cost. Her fearful outlook that there won’t be enough, keeps her from enjoying her life.
• The Spender: She has no problem buying the expensive bottle of wine on the menu, joining the fancier, more expensive fitness club, or believes that a weekly mani-pedi is necessary to live. These decisions are made regardless of what is actually available in her bank account.

And if you are wondering, yes, you can be both an avoider and a saver or spender.

I would argue that a majority of Gen Y women are avoiders. Just like a blind date, they are terrified to have to face the unknown. Most likely behind their blinders there are low bank accounts, mounting credit card debt and no-end-in-sight student loans. With a college degree freshly in hand, we feel stupid asking for help.  We’re beating ourselves up thinking—I am smarter than this, I should know the basics of balancing my cash flow?

I hate to point fingers, but I truly believe that our high school and college educations did us a disservice by not requiring us to learn the money-managing skills before throwing us into the real world. When it comes to understanding how to save, budget, invest and plan, Gen Y women often feel lost and ashamed to ask where to begin.

The paralyzing unknown is always the first step in learning anything new. Rather than running from what you don’t know, embrace it and decide you are going to take charge.

Here are some tips for Gen Y women to build a better relationship with their finances:

Date your money

• Set one day a week where you check in with your money. Look at all your bank accounts and credit card statements; see what’s going in and why it’s going out. Be a respectful date; don’t pass judgment on what happened in your financial past. Simply acknowledge what it is showing you. This will be uncomfortable for avoiders, but it’s necessary! If you don’t know where you stand in a relationship, it can never change for the better.

Keep financial flirting to a minimum

• Determine what your 3 “Not-So-Necessary Flirtations” are. The things that make life easier and more sparkly (cab rides and lattes, anyone?), but don’t affect your ability to survive; unlike your “Necessary Evils” which are things like rent, cable and groceries.  When your cash flow out is more than your cash flow in, it’s time to cut your flirty habits. Don’t worry this isn’t a goodbye forever.

Get butterflies when you see your money

• If you ask any money-making-maven, they will tell you a fear of money repels money. Change your attitude towards money by getting excited about it when you can. To do this, create calendar events on the days that your pay checks, and any other forms of income, come into your life. Before you even think about what bills need to be paid with that check, take a moment to be grateful for that money. You worked hard for it and deserve a moment to feel proud of it. This will help get you to start tipping the scale towards a positive financial outlook.

Like with any relationship, it takes time for it to grow where you want it to be. We will have slip-ups and set-backs; but the only mistake we can really make is shutting down and breaking up. Your money is worthy of your time.

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How to Listen Between the Lines

by Mary Lou Quinlan
Published March 17, 2012 in Fashion, Money

Since 1999, the world’s most demanding marketers have counted on Just Ask a Woman to discover the triggers that make women buy, decide and believe in their brands. An advantage of these years of experience about marketing to women is now realized with this new asset: offering expanded services by partnering with leading talent—strategists, designers, digital gurus, filmmakers—who are successful in their own right but also partner with us.

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As Long As The Joneses Are Doing Worse …

by Jen Drexler
Published October 22, 2009 in Money

Christina Passariello wrote an interesting article today in The Wall Street Journal about the guilt people have when they are buying luxury goods. I absolutely agree with the article and there was one line in particular that keeps sticking with me because it is one that I’ve heard in research plenty of times. 

“It used to be about keeping up with the Joneses, and now it’s about outsaving the Joneses,” says Alexis Maybank, the co-founder of Gilt Groupe

On the surface I think this statement is very true because more than ever we are comparing ourselves to our neighbors and friends (even more to our enemies) to see how we are faring against them while the times are tough.   On a deeper level I’m just not sure how much saving is really going on. 

I spent a lot of this year traveling to talk to women about their lives and the economy and what I kept hearing was that they were still spending but they were spending differently.  Some used coupons for the first time (my favorite was a self proclaimed luxury queen who said ‘coupons were her crack’ now) and others shifted spending from themselves to buying for their children or saving for college but not for retirement but the money was still being spent. 

Many women talk about being “good” almost Puritanical for a few weeks and then feeling righteous enough to let a little spending slip in.  Before they know it they have spent more than they anticipated and jump right back on the saving wagon. (A pattern us women have learned from years of dieting!) Bottom line though is the money is still spent.

Making sure we are on par with the Joneses protects our egos and makes us feel like we aren’t that bad.  (A little Schadenfreude, anyone?)

Tags: Money, Wall Street Journal

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Don’t Blame Her

by Mary Lou Quinlan
Published May 18, 2009 in Money

A few weeks ago, I was teaching a grad business class at Fordham and of course, had started with the power of female consumers. And a guy raised his hand and asked, “Well, if women are responsible for 85% of the buying, aren’t they the ones that caused the country’s financial crisis?” Grrrr to the sarcastic but clever question, but I simply said that there was plenty of blame to go around. 

But a recent study shows that if anything, women’s behavior as investors is actually what could bail us out of this mess. According to a piece by Jason Zweig in the Wall St. Journal, women are not only more risk averse as investors, they are more fear-averse. Where last Fall’s market crash made men angry, it made women afraid. 

We’ve been talking for years about women’s habit of deliberate decision making, particularly in financial services, but Zweig’s report really brought it home. Because while women’s fear makes them even more conservative, men’s anger incites their financial revenge. He writes, “The results of a nationwide survey of hundreds of investors conducted in March, just days after the Dow bottomed at 6547, show how anger and fear in the minds of men and women can affect their financial decisions…one in eight men, but only one in every 40 women, had ‘made riskier investments looking for long-term growth’ in the previous week. Female investors were twice as likely to expect the return on stocks over the coming year to be zero or negative…

“The women were more concerned but took fewer actions,” said psychologist Ellen Peters of the University of Oregon, who co-directed the survey. “They were also more pessimistic — or realistic? — about what to expect from the market.”

Stocks are up 35% since March, so the women’s fears haven’t yet come to pass. But their inaction already looks wise.”

So, to that student with the 85% question, nyah, nyah.

Tags: Decision-Making, Psychology

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Loyalty programs are HOT, Going into debt is NOT

by Lily Wagner
Published January 23, 2009 in Money

With the economy stubbornly refusing to “perk up”, in the words of my Southern aunts, many of us are forced to hide our credit cards under the floorboards and assume a scrooge-like watch over whatever assets we still possess.  Many in my generation are embracing these hard times with great gusto—using this as an opportunity to learn how to cook or do their own laundry (sad, but true).  Some of my more adventurous (art school) friends have plunged back into the thrift store trend, labeling their third-hand duds “recession-chic.”

Channeling my glass half full ideology, I acknowledge the need to rein in expenses, but on the other hand refuse to abstain from all treat-spending during the indefinite slump. I had no other choice than to become a smarter shopper.  I took a humbling look at my bank statement and after a few short puffs into a brown paper bag, I zeroed in on the biggest problems–my longtime vices cosmetics and coffee.  I have a childlike obsession with makeup that causes me to pop into every Sephora I pass on the street, and my relationship with Starbucks, well, it’s the longest relationship I’ve ever had.

By doing a minimal amount of research, I found that both of these stores had loyalty programs that I was completely oblivious to.  By becoming a Sephora Beauty Insider, I receive 1 point for every dollar I spend at the store (trust me ladies, it adds up), redeemable for deluxe samples and gifts.  I’m also constantly receiving emails notifying me of sales, combined with coupons you can use online or in-store (if you haven’t heard, coupons are the new pink).  As for Starbucks, the amount I was spending on daily coffee is what can only be described as sinful.  By becoming the holder of a Starbucks Gold card you are privy to countless cost-cutting perks.  10% off every drink, free refills which, when you refill 3 times a day, is huge, free wifi (are you listening, collegiates?), and other exclusives and discounts that I would be dumb to ignore.

We don’t want to stop spending, but we want to be responsible.  Loyalty programs help to absorb our guilt and even leave us feeling good about our indulgences.  And, when the cloud finally passes, we’ll stay true to the companies that made the effort to reach out and hold onto us.

Tags: loyalty programs

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It’s 2009: Meet the Entitled Frugals

by Mary Lou Quinlan
Published January 6, 2009 in Leisure, Money

Observing the retail scene during this repressed holiday, I have to give the service industry points for trying their darndest to make people happy. But the customers have morphed into a new breed I’m calling Entitled Frugals.

This past Christmas I headed to Florida with my family and spent two nights at the Ritz Carlton in Naples, thanks to a great recession-fighting discount. And I wasn’t alone. Despite the financial slowdown, the place was packed…and the guests, well, kind of intense. I was wondering if the full house resulted from a “sandwich” situation, with the upscale exotic resort crowd trading ‘down’ to Florida (I love Florida, don’t shoot me!) and the mass chain hotel loyalists trading up to the Ritz because of the deals. And both kinds of customers were feeling ‘owed’ for having either conceded or spent up. The way I see it, luxury spending isn’t dead, it’s just going on sale and a bargain-basement style fight for attention has begun.

Case in point: the pool chair combat zone. Rather than feeling grateful for the discounts (or even just jolly for the holidays), guests seemed stricken with a fever of entitlement. Pre-dawn, guest slinked through the darkness to imprison dozens premium poolside chairs with towels pilfered out of storage. This was way beyond what I’ve ever seen. While the pool guys tried to enforce chair check-in’s every 30 minutes (wonder what that did to restaurant tabs, spa expenditures, hotel margins?), violators sent grandma to sit guard smug as a bug, refusing to budge.

So, how’s a service provider supposed to deal with the irate Entitled Frugals? The Ritz dialed up their well-bred politeness and endured. But as a chair-less customer, I found the way to get what you want when the mob around you is screaming for blood. Go soft. I spoke with a fabulous Guest Relations coordinator named Beverly Spagnuolo and gently asked if there was a way to get a chair since the guests were so piggy. By not acting ‘entitled’, (even though honestly, I felt we were), I got the dream response: six lounge chairs out near the Gulf in our own private area with drinks and beach concierge at the ready.

Will 2009 see us resenting our cutbacks and taking it out at the counter? Is this the beginning of, “I’m not OK, so you’re not gonna be OK” at retail? Or could it be an opening for the kinder retailers and the more savvy customers to find peace in tough times? Here’s to a Kinder New Year.

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Bailout? Put Women at the Wheel

by Mary Lou Quinlan
Published December 8, 2008 in Money

With this morning’s front page photo of a Detroit congregation praying for the success of the Big 3 Bailout, and millions of workers hanging on the funding decision, I hate to come off as a backseat driver, claiming to know what went wrong. But if I were to write a letter to the gentlemen in charge of the US auto industry, it might go like this: 

Dear Sirs, Despite the efforts of thousands of marketers and billions of advertising dollars, you’ve found yourself in a ditch. And, now you’re hitching your wagon to hybrids and smaller cars as the way out. I’d like to suggest another route. 

Legendary GM chairman Alfred P. Sloan proclaimed a “car for every purse and purpose.” Let’s focus on those two “p’s”. Stats show that women buy 65% of all new cars. They’re responsible for about 74% of all the maintenance visits. And, my favorite, when the man of the house makes a mistake buying on his own, she’s got 95% veto power. That puppy’s going back to the farm. 

Although your industry has a history of being very male-dominated, in the headquarters and the dealerships, it’s women who could have saved you. You pooh-poohed minivans and slacked off on their innovation, though moms, who may feel trapped in ‘breeder cars’ for a few years, secretly love them as the best way to maneuver babies and T-ball teams. She’s had the purse and the purpose all along. Where were you? 

I know that there are myths that have propelled your business. That men won’t drive a car women like, but that women will drive a car men like. That if the dealers get wind that you’re becoming a ‘chick’ brand, they’ll erupt. That the typical customer is a cool, young guy, with money to burn and an itchy foot on the gas pedal. (I remember reading that a design mantra was to think of a car as a ripped guy in a tight white t-shirt. Does he come with the car?) 

Hybrids, crossovers, smart wagons and smaller SUVs, did you see them as chick cars? Saturn became successful thanks to women (remember “no haggling”?) But eventually, the brand was drawn back into the cabal and now it’s almost a goner. What about luxury? Who’s pulling down a trillion dollars a year? Women. Who’s outliving men, and soon out-earning them? Women. Who wants performance that’s beautiful, inside and out? Women. 

Welcome to 2008, 2009 and the rest of your careers. Your customer is a ‘she.’ She’s only too glad to tell you what she wants. She’s the buyer, the maintainer, the chauffeur, the speedster, the hipster and the woman behind the wheel. Imagine your future in her hands. It is. And you don’t want to be in her rear view mirror. 

Good luck. Hope you listen, for America’s sake.

Tags: recession

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Scrooging the Holiday

by Mary Lou Quinlan
Published November 24, 2008 in Money

I got my first ‘Uh Oh’ when the JCrew outlet store I was grazing last week shoved advance Black Friday coupons in my bag. “Look at the deals you can get! Do you want to have our holiday coupons too? “It’s one thing when conventional retailers are 50%ing their fall inventory when the leaves haven’t turned. It’s another when off-priced centers are predicting they will have to bribe you back to save even more. Cheryl and Co, an online retailer sent me an email, saying how sorry they felt that finances were bad all around, so they’d help me with a discount on their cookies. Feeling a kind of Tiny Tim depression coming on, I wondered if retailer’s lack of confidence in the economy and the coming season wasn’t low enough. 

This advance notice of doom and gloom is making me wonder: 

– Just how long women will wait this year to shop? Over the last few years, women have adopted men’s last minute shopping procrastination as a strategy to catch the best bargains. Now that we feel assured that prices will continue to nosedive through December, will we just wait till Dec 26th to snare the best deals and just celebrate New Years instead?  

–Will the extra gimme’s and super price-cuts be what we brag about? ”Hey Honey, you should really love that sweater because I got a triple point discount on it by shopping after midnight–and the matching socks were free!!” Will holiday memories run like this? ”Instead of caroling, we just walked the mall and kept track of who was selling the cheapest flat screen!”

–Will we engage in a new kind of Holiday Haggling by sharing stories of diminished 401K’s or using pink slips as bargaining chips? Of course, with retail jobs being slashed, maybe customer pleas for sympathy will fall on deaf ears.

–And perhaps Re-gifting, that staple of the desperate shopper, will come into its own as the ultimate Green Gesture under the tree.

More likely, this year, women, the keeper of holidays, will take on the practical and rewarding role of bringing back the Ghost of Seasons Past…where cookies are baked with whatever’s in the pantry and presents are wrapped in newsprint to save on escalating fancy paper costs and the best gifts are either made by hand or promises of experiences where families can hunker down, wait it out and come out the other side, un-scrooged.

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Identity Theft

by Mary Lou Quinlan
Published November 11, 2008 in Money

The continuing crisis in the economy has thrown America’s financial institutions into an identity crisis. And women, who do most of the banking, might find themselves wondering about the brands they once trusted.  

It came home to us at Just Ask a Woman when our bank of choice Wachovia was first courted by New York goliath Citibank and then adopted by Midwestern-sounding parent Wells Fargo. We loved our Wachovia team, even their hard to pronounce name which my Mom always called “Watch over ya” as a shout out to their terrific customer service.  

Well, just as our account was settling into the new brand digs, we started reading the unsettling news that FDIC might only protect money up to a limit and we had crept past it. So, time to get another bank. We thought we’d turn to Commerce, with its ads featuring spunky and hip Kelly Ripa, since it’s right next door (as is, actually every bank in New York, the city that decided a few years ago, we couldn’t go ten paces without being broke or counting our spare change.) New York is Bank Brand Central, blanketed with WaMu boxes and Bank of America’s…for now. 

Anyway, we waffled a couple of weeks before going to open the new account at Commerce, just long enough for it to be bought and become TD Bank. Gone was the cheery red and blue; now all the employees were in gray with green buttons on their lapels. And as they asked me to produce ID and sign a half dozen forms promising I was me and telling me they’d hold our checks till we had proven ourselves trustworthy, I had to wonder….

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